Marriage is a bond to live the rest of the life happily with an aim to fulfil the purpose of life. Love is the prime factor in a happy married life. Love your spouse doesn't mean it is only a twosome. It is more than that. You are now part of a new family. You have to respect the persons in your new family. If not you are going to lose the trust and faith of your spouse. In many cases it is very clear there are no nice thoughts of in laws. Slowly these behaviour will weakens your marriage. Try to honour and respect your spouse's family in their style. Because you are from a different family. Once you are respecting each other with openness really works in the harmony of your life. All are humane and try to understand it and go in a mutual understanding without finding fault in the other family which is your fault not the other's fault. Understanding is the more important thing not to ill treat your in laws. Your spouse is the loving and beautiful child of your in laws. Let your spouse be in a good, healthy and loving relationship with their family.
Tuesday, October 25, 2016
Thursday, October 20, 2016
Live simple and humble for a peaceful married life...
There will be ups and downs in all married life. Some important things to take into consideration are to differentiate between 'needs' and 'wants'. Needs are highly essential in life. But 'wants' can be delayed based on financial capacity. In furnishing new home, car, clothes, fancies etc. are some areas where couples go for loans. Loans which is within your repayable limit is advisable. Do not get tempted with your spouse's words to get into debt. Make choices to live with the needs help you live without debt to be happy and makes a peaceful life. The kids will also follow the simplicity of their parents.
Spouses should not make a point to complain. It will become a habit and attitude to complain all the time which spoils the happiness. Positive attitude towards life is highly essential to change your mind to change your spouse.
Plan the annual budget, trips, kid's education, other activities together to feel oneness and to act as a team to drive your life. Be more generous with time and money. Find your own time and family time in a regular basis to appreciate and support your spouse and kids.
Simplicity is the path to know and love yourself , your spouse and your family.
Go beyond the Twosome!
To live in healthy relation between spouses you need to understand and love your in laws and close relatives. Marriage is between two people but between two families also. Recently young couples are mostly attached in between. They don't have time to think about others. It is OK. After your early time of marriage you back to normal life and at least now is the time to look on your dear ones in both the families.
There are young couples thinking of their close ones and being in touch with them. The important thing is it should be same to both sides. If one is weak in maintaining the relations the other should cover up the lack. In long run the spouse can highly appreciate the acts of the other. Do not behave in a biased way. Treat both families in equal love and respect.
Do not hesitate to keep families and friends in a loop. Marriage is between families and is a signature in the society. Do not be so possessive with your spouse. It is better to love your spouse and family together. The freedom and love in between the family will be a true blessing on the new couples.
We can see all the happiest couples are those who have interest and support "beyond the twosome".
There are young couples thinking of their close ones and being in touch with them. The important thing is it should be same to both sides. If one is weak in maintaining the relations the other should cover up the lack. In long run the spouse can highly appreciate the acts of the other. Do not behave in a biased way. Treat both families in equal love and respect.
Do not hesitate to keep families and friends in a loop. Marriage is between families and is a signature in the society. Do not be so possessive with your spouse. It is better to love your spouse and family together. The freedom and love in between the family will be a true blessing on the new couples.
We can see all the happiest couples are those who have interest and support "beyond the twosome".
Mutual trust and mutual understanding in marriage...
In married life love and respect each other to lead a model and happy life. No discrimination is needed between spouses. This in later will affect the life of your children. Wisdom and strength are very important to make your relationship healthy and happy. You need to deal with your imperfections to show your children that you are in good relation as their mom and dad. Give your spouse what expect from him or her. Always consider your words and actions to your spouse. A humble way of behaviour to your spouse will clear out any little dislikes between you both. If you can be easy with your spouse you will find life more easier. The truth is that people or situations are powerless. They are powerful with your reactions. Keep away from arguments, divert attention from anger, go compromising, be kind and compassionate to sustain the trust in between the couples.
Communication is the best key in married life
Where there is excellent communication between couples they are happy. When it grows into a family with kids, communication is very important among the family members to lead a happy life.
Our success key in our marriage life, even after forty years are the lovely, innocent and real communication. Around the dinner table we start, because we both were employed, as new couples to loving parents and now as aged couples. What ever happened in the day is just discussed before bed. So we have common friends, we know where ever we went, what we did, even what we talked like wise every thing is shared between us. By the grace of the 'Almighty' we are living happily for the last forty years. Clear communication avoids doubts, fear and jealousy. Clear communication is the real magical touch to make marriages happy. Think that you are sharing with the most important person in the rest part of your life. Communication helps to let go things, to avoid criticism, to take it easy, not to take it personal and over and above have fun of the day, love, positive approach and able to embrace and enjoy life.
Our success key in our marriage life, even after forty years are the lovely, innocent and real communication. Around the dinner table we start, because we both were employed, as new couples to loving parents and now as aged couples. What ever happened in the day is just discussed before bed. So we have common friends, we know where ever we went, what we did, even what we talked like wise every thing is shared between us. By the grace of the 'Almighty' we are living happily for the last forty years. Clear communication avoids doubts, fear and jealousy. Clear communication is the real magical touch to make marriages happy. Think that you are sharing with the most important person in the rest part of your life. Communication helps to let go things, to avoid criticism, to take it easy, not to take it personal and over and above have fun of the day, love, positive approach and able to embrace and enjoy life.
Love unconditionally for a happy married life
Love unconditionally means, love your spouse as the way 'God' loves you. How many can love your spouse like this. Couples are not at all different, they are also are selfish like anyone. We all will some times do mistakes by error or vice verse. We all some times makes mistakes which we are answerable to our spouse. When we try to keep it as a secret the that will be a sin. None of us are over and above sins. That is only humane. When we share our mistakes then it is very clear that we loves each other unconditionally. We have to humble ourselves and ask for forgiveness frequently in married life. That is so common. Nothing is shame in that provided we feel we are one. Unconditional love leads to love each other without any demands. Loving without any demands is very important between spouses. Demands are simple rules to hard rules. Rules are authority and rigid where love is pure and flexible. Of course rules can easily upset your relation. Few common rules like, dropping and picking kids from schools, grocery days, remitting bills on water and electricity like wise are essential at a home. Go for simple rules if necessary and forget about the rules on your time, your money, your family, your job, your style etc. not to complicate married life. The fewer the rules the better the relationship. True love is not at all demanding. The spouses who love unconditionally can do the house chores when they see it and if it need to be done.
I should say by putting 'God' who loves us unconditionally, in between the couples, works well and enables the spouses to experience the true love without any expectations and ego.
I should say by putting 'God' who loves us unconditionally, in between the couples, works well and enables the spouses to experience the true love without any expectations and ego.
Learn to live with your differences in married life
Recognize your differences and always set your mind to defer each of the differences.
Don't wait for your spouse to get corrected and come on your way. That is the most foolish thought if you think so. But it is wise if you want to maintain your marriage in a happy way, you have to learn to live with your difference. Think how different are you from your spouse and look into the steps how you can get adjusted with that.
In my early married life we both were working and my husband has night shifts. During his night shifts when I am back from office I was so sad to see the sheets in the bed room are scattered and unfolded. He is not having a habit of folding it back like it was before after his sleep. I hate to see things are disorganized. But he used to say, what's the matter I can do it now, but again it is like that. When I started to demand, he turned his attitude, saying, it is our home why should you get upset, nobody else is here to rank us in home keeping. I thought I need peace at home, this guy is not going to change, so let me do what ever things is organizing myself without complaining. Slowly I began to feel quite happy at home not looking into the things which are not in my control.
When we think the common things we have together and work on it, the happiness factor will reaches the peak and the home can be a heaven. And also respect the special skills of our spouse have, may be in cleaning, taking care of kids, helping in kitchen, doing laundry like that, wilfully give up our preferences for one another. In another way differences are so good to be individualistic and live a life of different perspective which can add depth into marriage. So learn to live with your differences, respect your spouse's differences and live in your comfort zone without disturbing your spouse.
Don't wait for your spouse to get corrected and come on your way. That is the most foolish thought if you think so. But it is wise if you want to maintain your marriage in a happy way, you have to learn to live with your difference. Think how different are you from your spouse and look into the steps how you can get adjusted with that.
In my early married life we both were working and my husband has night shifts. During his night shifts when I am back from office I was so sad to see the sheets in the bed room are scattered and unfolded. He is not having a habit of folding it back like it was before after his sleep. I hate to see things are disorganized. But he used to say, what's the matter I can do it now, but again it is like that. When I started to demand, he turned his attitude, saying, it is our home why should you get upset, nobody else is here to rank us in home keeping. I thought I need peace at home, this guy is not going to change, so let me do what ever things is organizing myself without complaining. Slowly I began to feel quite happy at home not looking into the things which are not in my control.
When we think the common things we have together and work on it, the happiness factor will reaches the peak and the home can be a heaven. And also respect the special skills of our spouse have, may be in cleaning, taking care of kids, helping in kitchen, doing laundry like that, wilfully give up our preferences for one another. In another way differences are so good to be individualistic and live a life of different perspective which can add depth into marriage. So learn to live with your differences, respect your spouse's differences and live in your comfort zone without disturbing your spouse.
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