In married life love and respect each other to lead a model and happy life. No discrimination is needed between spouses. This in later will affect the life of your children. Wisdom and strength are very important to make your relationship healthy and happy. You need to deal with your imperfections to show your children that you are in good relation as their mom and dad. Give your spouse what expect from him or her. Always consider your words and actions to your spouse. A humble way of behaviour to your spouse will clear out any little dislikes between you both. If you can be easy with your spouse you will find life more easier. The truth is that people or situations are powerless. They are powerful with your reactions. Keep away from arguments, divert attention from anger, go compromising, be kind and compassionate to sustain the trust in between the couples.
Thursday, October 20, 2016
Communication is the best key in married life
Where there is excellent communication between couples they are happy. When it grows into a family with kids, communication is very important among the family members to lead a happy life.
Our success key in our marriage life, even after forty years are the lovely, innocent and real communication. Around the dinner table we start, because we both were employed, as new couples to loving parents and now as aged couples. What ever happened in the day is just discussed before bed. So we have common friends, we know where ever we went, what we did, even what we talked like wise every thing is shared between us. By the grace of the 'Almighty' we are living happily for the last forty years. Clear communication avoids doubts, fear and jealousy. Clear communication is the real magical touch to make marriages happy. Think that you are sharing with the most important person in the rest part of your life. Communication helps to let go things, to avoid criticism, to take it easy, not to take it personal and over and above have fun of the day, love, positive approach and able to embrace and enjoy life.
Our success key in our marriage life, even after forty years are the lovely, innocent and real communication. Around the dinner table we start, because we both were employed, as new couples to loving parents and now as aged couples. What ever happened in the day is just discussed before bed. So we have common friends, we know where ever we went, what we did, even what we talked like wise every thing is shared between us. By the grace of the 'Almighty' we are living happily for the last forty years. Clear communication avoids doubts, fear and jealousy. Clear communication is the real magical touch to make marriages happy. Think that you are sharing with the most important person in the rest part of your life. Communication helps to let go things, to avoid criticism, to take it easy, not to take it personal and over and above have fun of the day, love, positive approach and able to embrace and enjoy life.
Love unconditionally for a happy married life
Love unconditionally means, love your spouse as the way 'God' loves you. How many can love your spouse like this. Couples are not at all different, they are also are selfish like anyone. We all will some times do mistakes by error or vice verse. We all some times makes mistakes which we are answerable to our spouse. When we try to keep it as a secret the that will be a sin. None of us are over and above sins. That is only humane. When we share our mistakes then it is very clear that we loves each other unconditionally. We have to humble ourselves and ask for forgiveness frequently in married life. That is so common. Nothing is shame in that provided we feel we are one. Unconditional love leads to love each other without any demands. Loving without any demands is very important between spouses. Demands are simple rules to hard rules. Rules are authority and rigid where love is pure and flexible. Of course rules can easily upset your relation. Few common rules like, dropping and picking kids from schools, grocery days, remitting bills on water and electricity like wise are essential at a home. Go for simple rules if necessary and forget about the rules on your time, your money, your family, your job, your style etc. not to complicate married life. The fewer the rules the better the relationship. True love is not at all demanding. The spouses who love unconditionally can do the house chores when they see it and if it need to be done.
I should say by putting 'God' who loves us unconditionally, in between the couples, works well and enables the spouses to experience the true love without any expectations and ego.
I should say by putting 'God' who loves us unconditionally, in between the couples, works well and enables the spouses to experience the true love without any expectations and ego.
Learn to live with your differences in married life
Recognize your differences and always set your mind to defer each of the differences.
Don't wait for your spouse to get corrected and come on your way. That is the most foolish thought if you think so. But it is wise if you want to maintain your marriage in a happy way, you have to learn to live with your difference. Think how different are you from your spouse and look into the steps how you can get adjusted with that.
In my early married life we both were working and my husband has night shifts. During his night shifts when I am back from office I was so sad to see the sheets in the bed room are scattered and unfolded. He is not having a habit of folding it back like it was before after his sleep. I hate to see things are disorganized. But he used to say, what's the matter I can do it now, but again it is like that. When I started to demand, he turned his attitude, saying, it is our home why should you get upset, nobody else is here to rank us in home keeping. I thought I need peace at home, this guy is not going to change, so let me do what ever things is organizing myself without complaining. Slowly I began to feel quite happy at home not looking into the things which are not in my control.
When we think the common things we have together and work on it, the happiness factor will reaches the peak and the home can be a heaven. And also respect the special skills of our spouse have, may be in cleaning, taking care of kids, helping in kitchen, doing laundry like that, wilfully give up our preferences for one another. In another way differences are so good to be individualistic and live a life of different perspective which can add depth into marriage. So learn to live with your differences, respect your spouse's differences and live in your comfort zone without disturbing your spouse.
Don't wait for your spouse to get corrected and come on your way. That is the most foolish thought if you think so. But it is wise if you want to maintain your marriage in a happy way, you have to learn to live with your difference. Think how different are you from your spouse and look into the steps how you can get adjusted with that.
In my early married life we both were working and my husband has night shifts. During his night shifts when I am back from office I was so sad to see the sheets in the bed room are scattered and unfolded. He is not having a habit of folding it back like it was before after his sleep. I hate to see things are disorganized. But he used to say, what's the matter I can do it now, but again it is like that. When I started to demand, he turned his attitude, saying, it is our home why should you get upset, nobody else is here to rank us in home keeping. I thought I need peace at home, this guy is not going to change, so let me do what ever things is organizing myself without complaining. Slowly I began to feel quite happy at home not looking into the things which are not in my control.
When we think the common things we have together and work on it, the happiness factor will reaches the peak and the home can be a heaven. And also respect the special skills of our spouse have, may be in cleaning, taking care of kids, helping in kitchen, doing laundry like that, wilfully give up our preferences for one another. In another way differences are so good to be individualistic and live a life of different perspective which can add depth into marriage. So learn to live with your differences, respect your spouse's differences and live in your comfort zone without disturbing your spouse.
Spouses to become best friends in life to lead a successful maried life...
Love your spouse as your best friend. Real friends will be open to each other, share jokes, have lots of likes and more over with a helping hand always. When you get together you have to understand each other. Make a point to have an open discussion just like to your intimate friend. Deep friendship is a key to true intimacy between husband and wife. Keep in mind sex is not the only key to a successful married life. You have to become friends first and keep on, because friends spend time together doing things they both like and enjoy. At the end of the day make it a point looking at each other to say 'you are my best friend in my life'.
Tuesday, October 18, 2016
Food is important in a happy married life...
Young couples are very confident to be on their own. Previously the dinner or lunch served to the family members were the same. Considering the likes of the members the menu will be prepared. Now a days there are a lot of options to have separate food for each and everyone at home. They just go into the pantry or search in the refrigerator to find their favorite or buy from outside or order online and wait for it. That is the system followed by the young generation. That is good to certain level because of the fast life.
Food has an important role in the bondage in marriage. In my age, I was told that wives should take the privilege to find out the taste of their husbands and cook those dishes with a special ingredient of 'love' which makes him to surrender to you. To a good level that was true. They love to have food from home, because at home, the most important person in his life is waiting to serve the delicious dish and to enjoy dinner with him. Who can get away from this. Let your husband to adore and enjoy your cooking, your unconditional love and the satisfaction of having the favorite food with the most lovable person. Learn from him his tastes and consult with his mom for the recipe and her special ingredients in it. After all you are going to be a good daughter in law also. What is there to loose for you? Only gain, gain and gain and a concrete foundation of understanding with your husband.
Now a days both boys and girls know cooking just to survive themselves. Go find out the taste of your spouse and try the dish. Let us take it in both ways by husband and wife because both are working and both are busy. Who comes back home first, can go ahead with the preparation of dinner and get ready for the next day's breakfast and lunch. Is that a nice idea to surprise your spouse with your helping hand on return from office?
Food has an important role in the bondage in marriage. In my age, I was told that wives should take the privilege to find out the taste of their husbands and cook those dishes with a special ingredient of 'love' which makes him to surrender to you. To a good level that was true. They love to have food from home, because at home, the most important person in his life is waiting to serve the delicious dish and to enjoy dinner with him. Who can get away from this. Let your husband to adore and enjoy your cooking, your unconditional love and the satisfaction of having the favorite food with the most lovable person. Learn from him his tastes and consult with his mom for the recipe and her special ingredients in it. After all you are going to be a good daughter in law also. What is there to loose for you? Only gain, gain and gain and a concrete foundation of understanding with your husband.
Now a days both boys and girls know cooking just to survive themselves. Go find out the taste of your spouse and try the dish. Let us take it in both ways by husband and wife because both are working and both are busy. Who comes back home first, can go ahead with the preparation of dinner and get ready for the next day's breakfast and lunch. Is that a nice idea to surprise your spouse with your helping hand on return from office?
Monday, October 17, 2016
Man proposes, God disposes...have a strong faith in the 'Supreme Power'....
We proposes, and God disposes. It is so true. We can make any plans we want but the final decision is of 'God' that decides it's implementation as success or failures. Everything depends on 'God's' grace rather than our wisdom. We all the created and guided by the 'Supreme Power' with a proper and solid plan of prosperity. Have trust in the power and go ahead with a real positive attitude. Every plan has a nice end to finish it or to restart from it. We are created for a reason to fulfil the purpose of our life in this mother earth. The paths to reach the destination is cleared by the 'Almighty' in front of us to go through. It is the negative thinking in us distracting us to follow. Look inward and find the 'God' within us to follow the purpose to our true self, which is the original plan, serving the mankind and the planet with love. Be in touch with our community, with our fellow traveller's to keep our life moving ahead always with a mind of love serving others. Love is the most important factor to be with us to power our lives as humans. It can driven us to live our life passionately. Keep on learning everyday in our life through experiences to help our neighbours in our own unique way with love and wisdom. Let us have love for God, love for our fellow humans and love for ourselves.
If we look into our lives, we can see a lot of examples for this statement. Trips cancelled, postponed, marriages not happened, illness and deaths, job change, transfers to another city/country/continent, likewise lots and lots to think and have strong faith and trust in 'God'.
If we look into our lives, we can see a lot of examples for this statement. Trips cancelled, postponed, marriages not happened, illness and deaths, job change, transfers to another city/country/continent, likewise lots and lots to think and have strong faith and trust in 'God'.
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